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Church of the Nazarene – Harrisonburg & East Rock

Healing Fractured Relationships, Part 1: Conflict

See every conflict as an opportunity to deepen your love for one another.

Welcome to our journey into a series we are calling “Healing Fractured Relationships”. Together we are seeking the Lord’s wisdom and guidance for our relationships: all relationships. Why? Because all relationships matter.

Whoever those people are that matter most to you, that’s who we are talking about today and in the weeks to come. And most specifically, we are talking about relationships in our lives that are hurting.

The questions we are asking together:

“Lord, what do you have to say about the people in my life who are hurting the most?”

“Lord, what do you have to say about the people in my life who have hurt me the most?”

Each week, as we talk about relationships, we will talk about specific tools that can help us. God’s Word has truth for us, tools for us, regarding our relationships, especially those that are hurting.

Today we begin with the topic of conflict. What does God’s Word have to say to us about dealing with conflict in our relationships?

While we may not enjoy conflict, the truth is, we need it.

I began with an idea that may seem puzzling to you, but it’s true: we need conflict. Specifically, we need healthy conflict that we can work through together.

The closest relationships in your life aren’t the ones where you’ve avoided conflict, instead you’ve addressed it in a healthy way and worked through it.

Philippians 2:1-8

Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross!

In his letter to the church in Philippi, Paul has a lot to say about relationships. And almost immediately, he address selfishness. Biblically, selfishness is poison to Godly relationships.

The greek word for humility in verse 3 really refers to “humility of mind” or “having a humble opinion of oneself.”

Two of the most common responses that we have to conflict are:

1. We want to AVOID

-We avoid conflict, avoid the hard things, ignore the problems, and pretend like it’s all good. hen we ignore conflict, it doesn’t go away. It doesn’t just resolve. It builds.

-When we ignore conflict, it doesn’t go away. Often it gets worse.

-But also, avoiding conflict is not obedient to God’s Word. It does not help us pursue “having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind.”

2. We want to WIN

-We see conflict not as an opportunity for restoration or healing, but as an opportunity to win.

-In our nature, we all like to win! We desperately want to be the one who’s right! And this translates into how we address conflict.

-But Biblically, a call to humility is not a call to win.

How To Turn a Disagreement into a Feud

1. Be sure to develop and maintain a healthy fear of conflict, letting your own feelings build up so you are in an explosive frame of mind.

2. If you must state your concerns, be as vague and general as possible. Then the other person cannot do anything practical to change the situation.

3. Assume you know all the facts and you are totally right. The use of a clinching Bible verse is helpful. Speak prophetically for truth and justice; do most of the talking.

4. With a touch of defiance, announce your willingness to talk with anyone who wishes to discuss the problem with you. But do not take steps to initiate such conversation.

5. Latch tenaciously onto whatever evidence you can find that shows the other person is merely jealous of you.

6. Judge the motivation of the other party on any previous experience that showed failure or unkindness. Keep track of any angry words.

7. If the discussion should, alas, become serious, view the issue as a win/lose struggle. Avoid possible solutions and go for total victory and unconditional surrender.

The ultimate problem:

In a relationship, if one person loses, the relationship loses.

Paul’s words point us to the first step:

“In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus”

-The foundation of Godly relationships begins with a new mindset.

-Without a Christlike mindset we will always see conflict as something to avoid, or something to win. And that’s never going to lead to the life that we desire.

-A Christ-like mindset is based on humility, where we consider the needs of others and put their needs before our own.

Bottom Line:

See every conflict as an opportunity to deepen your love for one another.

Verses for further study/reflection:

Matthew. 5:9

Ephesians 2:14-18

1 Timothy 2:5

Philippians 4:2-23

1 Peter 3:8

1 Peter 4:8

James 1:19-20

Updates on the new Waynesboro campus

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What Does God Want from Me? All

What we do with ALL we’ve been given matters to God.

Throughout this series we will seek to understand and answer the question:What does God expect of me?

We believe whole heartedly that it is only by the grace and mercy of God that we can be saved. There is absolutely nothing we can ever do to earn our salvation.

But truths such as the grace, mercy, and forgiveness of God do not nullify the fact that He has expectations about how we are to live our lives.

Our teaching series is based on the parable of Jesus in Matthew 25 known as the parable of the talents.

What we do with what we have been given, matters to God.

What does God really want from me? He wants it all. All of you.

As we enter John Chapter 15, Jesus is just hours away from the Cross. He and his disciples are together sharing a meal, as Jesus gives some final instructions and encouragement.

Think about this scene for a moment: The master (Jesus) is going away, and he has gathered his disciples together to entrust them with some final instructions.

I can’t help but wonder if the disciples in that moment were remembering the parable of the talents.

John 15:9-17

“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you. This is my command: Love each other.

Not just lay down your time, lay down your money, lay down your gifts…Lay down your life.

God wants all of me?

Jesus calls us to lay down our lives?

This is a puzzling concept that many of us don’t truly understand.

One of the keys to Jesus’ command is in these two words: ‘greater love’.

“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (Verse 13)

Jesus is calling us to a radically new way of living of loving.

By our definition, this does not make sense. We cannot fathom this kind of love, because our concept of love is so limited and flawed.

It would be impossible to comprehend this kind of love, except Jesus himself demonstrated it for us.

“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” (Verse 12)

It’s important to note: this isn’t a suggestion. Jesus isn’t suggesting we embrace this kind of ‘greater love’. He is commanding it.

“You must love as I have loved you.”

Matthew 10:39

Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it.

Matthew 10:39

If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it.

Verses for further study/reflection:

1 Corinthians 6:19

Luke 9:24

1 John 3:16-18

John 10:11

2 Corinthians 5:15

Romans 12:1

Jeremiah 10:23

1 John 3:16

Updates on the new Waynesboro campus

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Church of the Nazarene – East Rock

What Does God Want from Me? All

What we do with ALL we’ve been given matters to God

Throughout this series we will seek to understand and answer the question:What does God expect of me?

We believe whole heartedly that it is only by the grace and mercy of God that we can be saved. There is absolutely nothing we can ever do to EARN our salvation.

But truths such as the grace, mercy, and forgiveness of God do not nullify the fact that He has expectations about how we are to live our lives.

Our teaching series is based on the parable of Jesus in Matthew 25 known as the parable of the talents.

What we do with what we have been given, matters to God. God expects his people to utilize what they have been given for the growth of his Kingdom. That’s exactly what Jesus wants us to see in this parable.

It’s important that we consider things like time, talents, money, even what’s on our cards- But all these things are just handles for us to grasp what God really wants of his disciples.

What does God really want from me? He wants it all. All of you.

As we enter John Chapter 15, Jesus is just hours away from the Cross. He and his disciples are together sharing a meal, as Jesus gives some final instructions and encouragement.

Think about this scene for a moment: The master (Jesus) is going away, and he has gathered his disciples together to entrust them with some final instructions.

I can’t help but wonder if the disciples in that moment were remembering the parable of the talents.

John 15:9-11

“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.

When we ask, “What does God expect of me?” its asked within this relationship, this love.

It’s not an arbitrary command from an overruling boss or principal- It’s a relational commitment between you and Christ.

As we continue, we must remember- this is relational, not contractual.

John 15:12

My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.

As the master in Luke 19 gave the instruction “Put this money to work until I return” Jesus says “love each other as I have loved you”

In just a few hours, as Jesus went to the cross, he showed the world the ultimate standard of Love.

“Love others as I have loved you.”

John 15:14-17

You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you. This is my command: Love each other.

It’s fascinating here that Jesus takes the time to reframe their relationship. He said I no longer call you servants, but instead I have called you friends.

Friends because his disciples know the HEART of their master.

You are my friends; I have chosen you- Why?

So that you can live for yourself?

So, you can grip your card and use it how you want?

No, I have chosen you, appointed you, that you would bear fruit, fruit that will last. Cards on the table.

For Jesus there is a direct link between bearing fruit, loving one another, and laying down your life.

If we go all the way back to the beginning and pick up our theme question- What does God expect of me? What do we see here in the words of Jesus?

That we would remain in relationship with him and we would love others as he has loved us.

Moment by moment, day by day, in fellowship and intimacy with Him. We can’t begin to live a life like Jesus is talking about apart from him- We cannot do it on our own and we aren’t supposed to.

Remain in my love. Receive my JOY. Love others as I have loved you.

As Jesus loved, he didn’t hold back, he didn’t play it safe, he didn’t create a list of pros and cons to see which side made the most sense

He gave sacrificially. He gave it all. He laid down His life. And He commands that we do that same

Give up YOUR life

Lose YOUR life

Lay down YOUR life

Give him ALL

Give him your all, as he gave you His.

Updates on the new Waynesboro campus

God is inviting us to step out in faith to plant a Spanish-speaking campus in the Waynesboro community. Join us on the journey!

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Waynesboro

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What Does God Want from Me? Week 3

“What am I doing with what I’ve been given?”

Throughout this series we will seek to understand and answer the question:What does God expect of me?

We believe whole heartedly that it is only by the grace and mercy of God that we can be saved. There is absolutely nothing we can ever do to EARN our salvation.

But truths such as the grace, mercy, and forgiveness of God do not nullify the fact that He has expectations about how we are to live our lives.

Our teaching series is based on Jesus’s parable of the talents.

What we do with what we have been given matters to God. God expects his people to utilize what they have been given for the growth of His Kingdom. That’s exactly what Jesus wants us to see in this parable.

Within our teaching series we are seeking to understand what God expects with our time, our money, and ultimately our very lives.

This week’s message focuses on money.

Luke 19:11-27

While they were listening to this, he went on to tell them a parable, because he was near Jerusalem and the people thought that the kingdom of God was going to appear at once. He said: “A man of noble birth went to a distant country to have himself appointed king and then to return. So he called ten of his servants and gave them ten minas. ‘Put this money to work,’ he said, ‘until I come back.’ “But his subjects hated him and sent a delegation after him to say, ‘We don’t want this man to be our king.’ “He was made king, however, and returned home. Then he sent for the servants to whom he had given the money, in order to find out what they had gained with it. “The first one came and said, ‘Sir, your mina has earned ten more.’ “ ‘Well done, my good servant!’ his master replied. ‘Because you have been trustworthy in a very small matter, take charge of ten cities.’ “The second came and said, ‘Sir, your mina has earned five more.’ “His master answered, ‘You take charge of five cities.’ “Then another servant came and said, ‘Sir, here is your mina; I have kept it laid away in a piece of cloth. I was afraid of you, because you are a hard man. You take out what you did not put in and reap what you did not sow.’ “His master replied, ‘I will judge you by your own words, you wicked servant! You knew, did you, that I am a hard man, taking out what I did not put in, and reaping what I did not sow? Why then didn’t you put my money on deposit, so that when I came back, I could have collected it with interest?’ “Then he said to those standing by, ‘Take his mina away from him and give it to the one who has ten minas.’ “ ‘Sir,’ they said, ‘he already has ten!’ “He replied, ‘I tell you that to everyone who has, more will be given, but as for the one who has nothing, even what they have will be taken away. But those enemies of mine who did not want me to be king over them—bring them here and kill them in front of me.’ ”

The context for this story is deeply connected to the anticipation of Christ’s return. Jesus focuses specifically on how people should live in response to the anticipation of Christ’s return.

In both Matthew 25 and here in Luke 19, Jesus told a story like this to illustrate the truth of his coming again and the judgement that will bring. But he also wanted his disciples to see how they should live in the meantime.

Each servant has been entrusted with money, the master’s money. It hasn’t been earned, but instead, it’s a gift.

And they have been instructed to “put the Master’s money to work”

What you do with what money you’ve been given, matters to God.

As we are acknowledging throughout this series, this is a hard word from Jesus. In the parables, the hard-working wise servants aren’t just rewarded

but the lazy and faithless servant receives the ultimate punishment.

But the purpose of this parable isn’t to be harsh, the purpose is best described in a word: URGENCY.

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What are the implications of this story, especially for us?

1. We are rich

No matter how rich you may feel, we have all been given much according to God’s economy

2. It’s not really ‘ours’

It ultimately is the master’s money, and it has been entrusted to us.

3. We can’t keep it, but we can invest it

God’s heart is not that we would feel guilty, but that we would feel responsible.

The question we must all ask ourselves:

‘”What am I doing with what I’ve been given?”

Verses for further study/reflection:

Hebrews 13:5

Proverbs 13:11

Ecclesiastes 5:10

Luke 12:15

Romans 13:8

Matthew 6:19-24

9 “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. 22 “The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy,[c] your whole body will be full of light. 23 But if your eyes are unhealthy,[d] your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness! 24 “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.

Mark 12:41-44

41 Jesus sat down opposite the place where the offerings were put and watched the crowd putting their money into the temple treasury. Many rich people threw in large amounts. 42 But a poor widow came and put in two very small copper coins, worth only a few cents.

43 Calling his disciples to him, Jesus said, “Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put more into the treasury than all the others. 44 They all gave out of their wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything—all she had to live on.”

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What Does God Want from Me? Money

What we do with what we’ve been given matters to God

Throughout this series we will seek to understand and answer the question:What does God expect of me?

We believe whole heartedly that it is only by the grace and mercy of God that we can be saved. There is absolutely nothing we can ever do to EARN our salvation.

But truths such as the grace, mercy, and forgiveness of God do not nullify the fact that He has expectations about how we are to live our lives.

Our teaching series is based on the parable of Jesus in Matthew 25 known as the parable of the talents.

What we do with what we have been given, matters to God. God expects his people to utilize what they have been given for the growth of his Kingdom. That’s exactly what Jesus wants us to see in this parable.

Within our teaching series we are seeking to understand what God expects with our time, our money, and ultimately our very lives.

Today we are focusing on money

Luke 19:11-13

While they were listening to this, he went on to tell them a parable, because he was near Jerusalem and the people thought that the kingdom of God was going to appear at once. He said: “A man of noble birth went to a distant country to have himself appointed king and then to return. So he called ten of his servants and gave them ten minas. ‘Put this money to work,’ he said, ‘until I come back.’

The audience of Luke 19 believed Jesus was going to immediately bring the Kingdom of God to earth in a triumphant, almost military style victory- But that was not Jesus’ plan.

He sets out to share what the kingdom of God is like, and what he expects of his disciples until he returns.

In Matthew, Jesus speaks of Talents which was like a unit of measure. Here what the noble man is giving away is called Minas.

It’s hard to nail down the exact dollar value of a mina, but scholars believe it was equivalent to 100 days wages-

This money was given to the servants- Unlike the parable of the Talents, here in Luke, the master gives specific instructions for what the servants are to do-Put this money to work until I return.

With that, the master goes on his way.

Luke 19:14

“But his subjects hated him and sent a delegation after him to say, ‘We don’t want this man to be our king.’

This explanatory note makes it clear this is not just a random story- this is illustrating what is happening in the life of Jesus as this would foreshadow what was to come in the crucifixion.

Luke 19:15-19

“He was made king, however, and returned home. Then he sent for the servants to whom he had given the money, in order to find out what they had gained with it. “The first one came and said, ‘Sir, your mina has earned ten more.’ “ ‘Well done, my good servant!’ his master replied. ‘Because you have been trustworthy in a very small matter, take charge of ten cities.’ “The second came and said, ‘Sir, your mina has earned five more.’ “His master answered, ‘You take charge of five cities.’

As the story continues, we will see something entirely different for the last servant- the one who did not use what he was given for the master.

In fact, Jesus is really creating this story so the third servant would stand out apart from the rest.

Luke 19:20-27

“Then another servant came and said, ‘Sir, here is your mina; I have kept it laid away in a piece of cloth. I was afraid of you, because you are a hard man. You take out what you did not put in and reap what you did not sow.’ “His master replied, ‘I will judge you by your own words, you wicked servant! You knew, did you, that I am a hard man, taking out what I did not put in, and reaping what I did not sow? Why then didn’t you put my money on deposit, so that when I came back, I could have collected it with interest?’ “Then he said to those standing by, ‘Take his mina away from him and give it to the one who has ten minas.’ “ ‘Sir,’ they said, ‘he already has ten!’ “He replied, ‘I tell you that to everyone who has, more will be given, but as for the one who has nothing, even what they have will be taken away. But those enemies of mine who did not want me to be king over them—bring them here and kill them in front of me.’ ”

Remember- this is not a story from a preacher trying to reach into your wallet- This is Jesus speaking and illustrating.

In both Matthew 25 and here in Luke 19, Jesus told a story like this to illustrate the truth of his coming again and the judgement that will bring. But he also wanted his disciples to see how they should live in the meantime.

This is for you, and this is for me.

So, how about you today? Are you in the category of the first two faithful servants? Or the third?

What you do with what money you’ve been given, matters to God.

So, what is it that the first two servants understood that we should? What exactly is Jesus teaching us here? Where do we start?

A great place to begin is recognizing that what we call “our money” is really God’s money in the first place.

Second – the way we tend to think about money is not a matter of our wallet, but a matter of our heart.

I believe God wants us to feel RESPONSIBLE for our money, not guilty for having it.

Finally- put your money into action for the Kingdom.

What are you doing with what you’ve been given?

God has entrusted you with so much- What will you do about that?

Updates on the new Waynesboro campus

God is inviting us to step out in faith to plant a Spanish-speaking campus in the Waynesboro community. Join us on the journey!

Check out the link below for more information and for frequent updates throughout the journey.

Waynesboro

Giving at COTN

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