RELATIONSHIP GOALS
· STARTED A NEW SERIES 2 WEEKS AGO
RELATIONSHIP GOALS SERIES
· WEIGHT LOSS GOALS – FINANCIAL GOALS
· ACHIEVEMENT/ACCOMPLISHMENT GOALS
· FITNESS GOALS
· DO WE HAVE RELATIONAL GOALS?
WEEK 1- ADAM- I WILL GIVE YOU YOUR IDENTITY
WEEK 2 ANGELA KOHL ASKED US TO CONSIDER RELATIONAL (FAMILY) GOALS
1. WOULD YOU CONSIDER WRITING A FEW GOALS DOWN FOR YOUR FAMILY. (SHARED SOME OF HERS)
NOW BECAUSE THIS CAN BE A HEAVY TOPIC-
WE SHOULD INFUSE SOME LAUGHTER INTO THIS
NOT ONLY FOR MARRIED PEOPLE- BUT SPOTLIGHT
· NATE BARGZATE TALKS -LAUNDRY/MARRIAGE
VIDEO NATE BARGZATE
· RELATIONAL GOALS TIED TO LAUNDRY
· RELATIONAL GOALS TIED TO MOWING
· TAKE YOU BACK TO THE BEGINNING
· FIRST ENCOUNTER WITH RUTH RODRIGUEZ
WAWA PICTURE
· I HAD NO GOAL- GET A DATE/ THAT WAS THE GOAL
· TODAY ISNT “5 STEPS TO HAPPY MARRIAGE”
MATTHEW 19
1. WHEN JESUS HAD FINISHED SAYING THESE THINGS, HE LEFT GALILEE AND WENT INTO THE REGION OF JUDEA TO THE OTHER SIDE OF THE JORDAN.
SAYING WHAT THINGS: HE JUST FINISHED A LESSON ON FORGIVNESS- THEN THE PHARISEES COME TO HIM WITH THIS.
2 Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.
MATTHEW 19:3-4
3 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” 4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’
MATTHEW 19:5
5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate
· SIDE NOTE- HE DOES ADDRESS DIVORCE
· MATTHEW 20- LET CHILDREN COME TO ME
· VICTIMS IN THE DIVORCE
GENESIS 2:18
18. THEN THE LORD GOD SAID, “IT IS NOT GOOD FOR THE MAN TO BE ALONE. I WILL MAKE A HELPER WHO IS JUST
RIGHT FOR HIM. BUT FOR ADAM NO SUITABLE HELPER WAS FOUND.
GENESIS 2:21-22
21. “SO THE LORD GOD CAUSED THE MAN TO FALL INTO A DEEP SLEEP; AND WHILE HE WAS SLEEPING, HE TOOK ONE OF THE MANS RIBS AND THEN CLOSED UP THE PLACE WITH FLESH. THEN THE LORD GOD MADE A WOMAN FROM THE RIB HE HAD TAKEN OUT OF THE MAN, AND HE BROUGHT HER TO THE MAN.
GENESIS 2:23-24
23. THIS IS NOW BONE OF MY BONE AND FLESH OF MY FLESH; SHE SHALL BE CALLED ‘WOMAN,’ FOR SHE WAS TAKEN OUT OF MAN. “THAT IS WHY A MAN LEAVES HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND IS UNITED TO HIS WIFE, AND THEY BECOME ONE FLESH.”
· JESUS QUOTES THIS PASSAGE
· PAUL IN CORINTHIANS SAYS
15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” 17 But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit.
CASUAL
· DO YOU FEEL LIKE DOING THIS? MAYBE
· NO COMMITMENT- NO ATTACHMENT
· BOREDOM- SEEMS FUN- NO HARM NO FOUL
· MOSTLY PHYSICAL- WALLS ARE UP/PROTECT SEL
CONTRACT
· THIS IS WHERE WE HAVE AN AGREEMENT
· HAS A TIME LIMIT
· WE ARRIVE AT THE SIGNING WITH A MUTUAL DISTRUST- ALMOST ASSUMING THE OTHER WILL BREAK THE AGREEMENT.
SETH
NOT INTERESTED IN PEOPLE MY AGE
WHAT I WANT TO SEE ARE PEOPLE YOUR AGE OR OLDER WHO WANT TO BE MARRIED STILL AND ARE STILL IN LOVE
COVENANT
· A COVERING- THIS IS GODS IDEA
· HEBREW WORD IS “bĕriyth”- TO CUT
DROP OF BLOOD
· OVER ARCHING THEMES IN SCRIPTURE
· LOVE OF GOD-HE WANTS TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT
· GRACE OF GOD- HE KEEPS EXTENDING THIS
· THE BACK DROP OF BLOOD
· HEBREW WORD FOR BLOOD-CUTTING
BLOOD OVER THE DOOR POST
· BLOOD SYMBOLIZED PROTECTION/FREEDOM
CONTRACT VS COVENANT
STATED TERMINATION DATE PERMANENT
INK BASED BLOOD BASED
MUTUAL DISTRUST MUTUAL COMMITMENT
VISUAL OF GODS INTENTION MARRIAGE
· KEVIN GETS CLOSER TO GOD- I STILL DON’T LEAVE RUTH
· WE DON’T DRAW CLOSE AT SAME SPEED
· IN THE SAME WAYS- AT THE SAME TIME
· PULLEY SYSTEM-GOD DRAWS
· BUT WE DO HAVE TO PURSUE HIM
GODS MATH
1 + 1 = 1
COVENANT PICTURE
· WEEKEND TO REMEMBER -NEXT WEEKEND
· TITUS AND NICOLE
BECAUSE IT TAKES WORK
PEOPLE TRY SOMETHING- IT DOESN’T WORK-QUIT
· WE CHECK EVERYTHING ELSE BUT OUR MARRIAGE
· NOT A SCUD MISSILE IS A SLOW DRIP
WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP GOAL?
WHAT IS GODS GOAL FOR YOUR MARRIAGE?
CAN THE TWO OF YOU BE MORE EFFECTIVE FOR GOD TOGETHER THAN YOU WOULD BE SINGLE?
· PRAY TOGETGHER ONCE A WEEK.
“WHAT IS GODS GOAL FOR YOUR MARRIAGE?”
SURVIVE- JUST GRIN AND BEAR IT- WAIT FOR THE KIDS TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND THEN WE WILL SPLIT
· CHILDREN ARE A BLESSING- THEY WILL NOT BRING THE FULLFILLMENT GOD DESIRES FOR YOUR MARRIAGE.
SINGLE PERSON WANTING TO BE MARRIED
THE GOAL MIGHT BE TO SEE MARRIAGE FOR WHAT IT WAS REALLY DESIGNED TO BE-SEEK IT ACCORDINGLY
DIVORCED PERSON
THE GOAL IS TO SEEK HEALING KNOWING THAT IT WAS NEVER GODS’ INTENTION OR DESIGN FOR YOU TO BE HERE. FIND HEALING IN GODS PROMISE.
THE WIDOW
TO THE ONE WHO KNOWS WHAT THE TEARING OF FLESH AND LONELINESS AND ABODONMENT FEELS LIKE-
CELEBRATE WHAT GOD HAS GIVEN YOU, AND LOOK TO HIM IN FAITH TO SEE YOU THROUGH.
Also within this community, we affirm that some believers are called to be married. As defined in Genesis, “a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) The marriage covenant, a reflection of the covenant between God and the people of God, is one of exclusive sexual fidelity, unselfish service, and social witness. A woman and a man publicly devote themselves to one another as a witness to the way God loves. Marital intimacy is intended to reflect the union of Christ and the Church, a mystery of grace. It is also God’s intention that in this sacramental union the man and woman may experience the joy and pleasure of sexual intimacy and from this act of intimate love new life may enter the world and into a covenantal community of care. The Christ-centered home ought to serve as a primary location for spiritual formation. The church is to take great care in the formation of marriage through premarital counseling and teaching that denotes the sacredness of marriage.